This Mother’s Day, I Honor the Woman Who Reimagined Herself for Our Child

My wife and I were married on September 1st, 2001. In those early years, neither of us felt a strong pull toward parenthood. Every time the topic of having a child came up, we ended up getting another dog instead. At one point, we had four.

Then, at 36, I started feeling “off.” I couldn’t quite name it, so I asked a friend to lunch to help me process what I was feeling. By the end of that lunch, he helped me realize that what was missing in my life was the experience of becoming a father.

That evening, I came home from work and shared this new epiphany with my wife. Her response was perfect: “Okay... what do we need to do?” You see, we hadn’t been using birth control, so we assumed it just wasn’t in the cards for us. But after taking a few intentional steps, just two months later, she was pregnant.

I share this story because it was then that I began to see a whole new version of the woman I had fallen in love with. I watched her begin to transform—expanding her heart, her thinking, and her world to make room for this new little life. She made courageous choices, including letting go of the successful business she had built from scratch so she could fully dedicate herself to becoming a mom.

Especially in that first year, I watched her evolve from my best friend and wife into a mother. And honestly, it was one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever witnessed. She stepped into the role with such grace and strength.

I know our story is just one among billions of mothers, past and present. But today, I want to thank every woman who has given her time, energy, heart, and so often her own needs to raise and nurture another human being.


With deep gratitude to every devoted mother,

Kevin Hoffarth MD, IFCMP
BioFIT Medicine